After the Session: Two Therapists Telling It Like It Is

The Circle Keeps Moving: Meaning, Memories, and Mortality

Sun, 10 May 2026 15:54:56 GMT

In this episode of After the Session, we explore how memory, loss, meaning, and mortality shape the human experience through the lens of Circle by Harry Chapin. We discuss the emotional circles we revisit throughout life, the stories we carry, and how growth often means learning to move forward while honoring what remains behind.

Are You Grown Up Without Growing Up?

Fri, 08 May 2026 20:22:34 GMT

Why do intelligent, capable adults sometimes react emotionally like wounded children? In this episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, we explore the “inner child,” family systems, emotional development, and how unresolved experiences from early life continue shaping relationships, conflict, anxiety, and connection long after childhood officially ends.

Unfinished Notes: How to Deal With "Jerky" People

Fri, 01 May 2026 16:05:57 GMT

Some people drain every room they enter. In this episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, we talk about how to deal with difficult personalities without losing yourself in the process. We explore boundaries, emotional regulation, conflict, manipulation, and the difference between compassion, avoidance, and healthy self respect in everyday relationships.

Unfinished Notes: When Being Nice is Actually Dishonest

Fri, 24 Apr 2026 17:58:17 GMT

In this episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, we explore how avoiding conflict to keep peace can erode trust, weaken intimacy, and disconnect us from ourselves. Real kindness tells the truth, even when it risks discomfort and requires courage.

Unfinished Notes: The Risk and Promise of Intimacy

Fri, 17 Apr 2026 15:13:24 GMT

In the episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, John and Dwain explore intimacy as gift and risk, examining how fear, control, and avoidance distort connection while honesty, presence, and responsibility restore it. They unpack common pitfalls, challenge cultural narratives, and point toward a deeper vision of relational closeness that remains unfinished.

Hope Beyond Yourself

Sun, 12 Apr 2026 16:05:33 GMT

In this episode of After the Session, John and Dwain explore the nature of hope that extends beyond self reliance. They discuss how misplaced hope fuels anxiety, how suffering reshapes perspective, and how grounding hope in something greater fosters resilience, responsibility, and meaning in everyday life and relationships and purpose.

Unfinished Notes: Why Do We Default to Negative Even When We Know Better?

Fri, 03 Apr 2026 21:30:18 GMT

In this episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, we explore why we default to negativity even when we know better. Drawing on negative bias, temperament, and lived experience, this episode examines how the mind prioritizes threat over gratitude, and how intentional awareness, emotional regulation, and perspective shifts can retrain attention toward healthier, more balanced ways of thinking and relating.

Unfinished Notes: The Attention Audit: What's Stealing Your Attention and How to Take it Back

Fri, 27 Mar 2026 21:20:06 GMT

In this episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, we explore the idea of an attention audit, helping you notice what is quietly shaping your thoughts, emotions, and behavior. We examine the hidden forces competing for your focus and offer practical ways to reclaim your attention, so you can live with greater clarity, intention, and alignment with what truly matters.

Where Repair Begins, Hurt Heals

Fri, 20 Mar 2026 21:13:48 GMT

In this episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, we explore how moments of hurt in relationships are not the end of the story—they are often the beginning of meaningful change. When rupture is acknowledged and worked through, it creates space for healing, restores trust, and deepens connection. Repair is where growth happens, and relationships become more honest, resilient, and whole.

Unfinished Notes: Blended Families? They Really Can Work!

Fri, 13 Mar 2026 20:40:04 GMT

In this episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, we explore the real dynamics of blended families. We talk honestly about what makes them hard, what helps them work, and where hope grows. With practical insight and lived experience, this conversation highlights the patience, boundaries, and grace that can turn complicated families into meaningful ones.

The Hidden Power of Sacrifice

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 16:14:35 GMT

In this episode of After the Session, we explore the hidden power of sacrifice. Growth often requires letting something go. Comfort, control, or old identities. Sacrifice is not loss for its own sake. It is the quiet exchange that makes room for maturity, deeper love, and a more meaningful life.

Unfinished Notes: Wow, That Hurts; Unkind Words!

Fri, 06 Mar 2026 21:01:17 GMT

In this episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, we explore the sting of unkind words and why they linger long after they are spoken. We reflect on emotional pain, the stories we attach to criticism, and how learning to process hurt differently can strengthen resilience, clarity, and the way we relate to others.

Unfinished Notes: Are You Becoming the Kind of Person Who Can Face Death?

Fri, 27 Feb 2026 21:41:32 GMT

Death rarely announces itself directly. It hides in control, anxiety, and regret. In this episode, we explore what we’re actually afraid of, how memento mori sharpens clarity, and three practical ways to face mortality without panic—so maybe death becomes a teacher that can bring focus, clarity, and alignment.

Unfinished Notes: Busy…But Avoiding?

Fri, 20 Feb 2026 22:17:43 GMT

In this episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, we explore the difference between productivity and avoidance. A full calendar can hide an empty center. Is constant motion courage or escape? What are we not facing? And what might change if we slowed down long enough to tell the truth?

Unfinished Notes: Guarding Your Mind in a Loud World

Fri, 13 Feb 2026 21:44:33 GMT

In this episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, we explore how optimism is formed, how negativity and learned helplessness take root, and why the brain carries a built in negative bias. We examine common cognitive distortions and how guarding the mind requires intentional thought, discipline, and courage in a loud world.

The Work of Love

Sun, 08 Feb 2026 18:35:24 GMT

In this episode of After the Session, we explore the work of love, how it grows beyond feeling into commitment, sacrifice, and steady presence. We examine attachment, maturity, and covenant, asking what makes love endure when emotion fades, conflict rises, and real life replaces romantic expectation.

Unfinished Notes: The Door Knob Confession

Fri, 06 Feb 2026 21:01:27 GMT

In this episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, we explore the “door knob confession” — the vulnerable truth a client shares just as the session ends. Why does it happen? What does it reveal about safety, timing, and resistance? And how should therapists wisely respond when something big lands late?

Unfinished Notes: What Is a Therapist Actually Looking For? January 30, 2026

Fri, 30 Jan 2026 22:00:38 GMT

In this episode of After the Session: Unfinished Notes, we pull back the curtain on what therapists are actually looking for. Not perfection or polished insight, but engagement, self-honesty, responsibility without shame, and quiet movement toward growth. Most sessions feel unfinished. That is not failure. That is formation.

Unfinished Notes: The Background Noise in Marriage – January 23, 2026

Fri, 23 Jan 2026 21:57:57 GMT

Most couples don’t struggle because they lack love, but because unexamined patterns keep playing in the background. In this episode of Unfinished Notes, we explore how couples enter marriage unprepared, why old dynamics quietly resurface even as progress is made, and how naming these subtle background noises can protect growth, deepen connection, and strengthen trust and intimacy.

Why Resolution Fails and Resolve Endures

Sun, 18 Jan 2026 17:25:48 GMT

In this episode of After the Session, we explore the difference between resolution and resolve. Resolution seeks relief and quick change, while resolve is formed through commitment, capacity, and staying present when motivation fades. We examine why insight alone fails and how lasting change emerges through endurance, support, and the slow work of formation.

Your Emotions Are Talking—Now What?

Sun, 14 Dec 2025 17:48:12 GMT

Emotions carry information, but they are not meant to run the show. In this episode, we explore what emotional intelligence actually is, how unhealthy emotional patterns form, and how leaders, parents, and partners can learn to regulate, interpret, and respond with clarity rather than reactivity. Along the way, John and Dwain spar a bit about hockey good-naturedly, with mutual respect offering a live example of how disagreement can coexist with regulation, trust, and friendship.

Maybe It’s Not All in Your Head: Why Your Body Deserves a Seat in Therapy

Mon, 10 Nov 2025 11:43:34 GMT

We talk about mental health as if it starts and ends in the mind, but what if the body has been part of the story all along? In this episode, we explore how sleep, hormones, nutrition, and movement shape mood, memory, and healing—and why lasting change must be embodied, not just understood.

Everybody’s a Main Character: Reflections on Narcissism

Sun, 05 Oct 2025 16:26:07 GMT

In this episode of After the Session, we explore narcissism both in the therapy room and in the culture around us. From the clinical traits that fracture relationships to the cultural trends that magnify the self, we reflect on what happens when everyone becomes the main character—and what healing really requires.

What If Depression Is Trying to Tell Us Something?

Sun, 07 Sep 2025 23:53:58 GMT

Biology matters, but does it tell the whole story? What if depression isn’t just a biological struggle, but also a signal breaking into our lives? In this episode of After the Session, we explore depression as disruption—an invitation to confront deeper questions of meaning, limits, and the possibility of growth.

No Mystical Cure: The Real Work Behind Therapy’s Magic Wand Myth

Sun, 10 Aug 2025 16:31:02 GMT

Think therapy is a magical cure or mystical experience? Spoiler: it’s not. No magic wand here—just real, sometimes messy work. We’ll unpack the myth, laugh a little, and get honest about what therapy really takes: patience, courage, and showing up for yourself every day.

When Empathy Goes Too Far: The Shadow Side of Feeling With

Sun, 29 Jun 2025 16:38:56 GMT

In this episode of After the Session, we explore the tangled roles of sympathy, empathy, and compassion. While empathy can be a gift, we uncover how it can also hinder growth when it turns toxic—blurring boundaries, enabling dysfunction, or keeping people stuck. Together, we ask: What’s the difference between feeling with and walking wisely beside? And how do we cultivate compassion that empowers rather than entangles? It’s a deeper dive into discernment, emotion, and true care.

Beyond Venting: What's the Point of Therapy?

Sun, 01 Jun 2025 16:33:35 GMT

In this episode of After the Session, John and Dwain dig into why therapy is more than just a place to vent. It’s where real growth begins. Like tending a garden, therapy cultivates change—through discomfort, new behaviors, and a fresh way of relating to yourself and the world around you. They unpack how embracing the mess can lead to meaningful transformation, and how stepping into a new role with yourself is where the real work—and reward—happens.

Facts, Fights, and Finding the Truth: It's Not Just About Who's Right

Sun, 04 May 2025 22:49:23 GMT

In this episode of After the Session, John and Dwain dive into what really happens in couples counseling—where the fights aren't always about what they seem. We explore the difference between fact-based arguments and emotional truths, and why being "right" rarely leads to real change. Often, communication isn’t the problem—it’s a symptom of something deeper. When couples learn to name what’s real, they open the door to healing—because finding the truth really can set us free.

Women You Might Want to Hear – What Your Man Won’t Tell You!

Sun, 30 Mar 2025 14:31:07 GMT

In this episode, we explore why so many men find it easier to chase pleasure than pursue deeper meaning—especially in relationships. From the fear of vulnerability to the cultural pressures of masculinity, we break down the barriers that keep men disconnected from their partners and even from themselves. Why do men often avoid the hard conversations? How does the pursuit of comfort and escape sabotage real intimacy? And what does it take to shift from surface-level connection to something truly fulfilling?

Join us as we unpack these questions and offer insights on how men can step into relationships with more courage, honesty, and depth.

Episode 1: Welcome to After the Session – Cigars, Cooking, and Conversations That Matter

Sun, 02 Mar 2025 18:59:05 GMT

Episode 1: Welcome to After the Session – Cigars, Cooking, and Conversations That Matter

In our very first episode, we pull up a chair and dig into why we started After the Session. From breakfast brainstorming sessions to the therapy room, we reflect on how relationships—not just theory—shape real change. We talk about the joys of cooking, the art of a good smoke, and why counseling isn’t just our job—it’s part of who we are. Join us for a laid-back but meaningful conversation about life, connection, and the work that happens after the session ends.

Grab a plate, pour a cup, and let’s talk.