The Unraveled Pod

Accountability: Who Gon' Check Me, Boo?

Mon, 22 Jun 2026 19:01:51 GMT

Who gon’ check you, boo? In this episode of The Unraveled Pod, Tierra and Stephanie get honest about accountability, correction, character, boundaries, and the moments when “helping” people turns into trying to control them. This conversation starts with a simple question: who in your life is allowed to hold you accountable? But it quickly unravels into something deeper.

How do you receive correction without becoming defensive?

Who actually has access to speak into your life?

Can someone with bad motives still tell you the truth?

And what happens when the person you keep trying to help is not ready to change?

Tierra and Stephanie unpack why accountability requires a standard, how idols reveal themselves through secrecy and defensiveness, why some people reject correction, and how compassion fatigue can expose where you have taken on responsibility God never gave you.

This episode is for anyone who wants to grow, but also for the fixer, the over-helper, the strong friend, the one who keeps repeating the same advice, and the one who needs to finally admit: their life is their responsibility, and mine is mine. Because accountability does not start with everybody else. It starts with you.

The Grace Gap

Mon, 15 Jun 2026 17:02:00 GMT

Stay connected + Work with us:

Tierra Sade Certified Disruption Coach | Speaker | Creator Helping high-functioning believers break toxic cycles, reset their confidence, and live boldly in purpose. Follow: @thetierrasade on IG & @tierrasade on TikTok Shop: Disruption Decks: disruptionshop.myshopify.com/

Stephanie Alexis Licensed Mental Health Therapist | Founder of Arabella Counseling Serving residents across Texas with compassionate, client centered services Follow: @officialstephaniealexis on IG & TikTok Book a Session or Learn More: www.arabellacouns.com

Certified Lover Girl

Mon, 08 Jun 2026 17:03:00 GMT

What does it really mean to be a Certified Lover Girl? Is it romance? Softness? Being obsessed with love? Or have we romanticized unhealthy relationship patterns and called them normal?

In this episode, we're unraveling the difference between being a woman who loves deeply and becoming a woman who loses herself in the pursuit of love. We talk about boundaries, emotional availability, dating with intention, why so many people keep repeating the same relationship cycles, and the hard truth about doing second things first.

If you've ever found yourself chasing potential, ignoring red flags, leading with emotions, or wondering why your relationships keep ending the same way, this conversation is for you.

Topics we cover:

• Boundaries vs. requests

• Why chemistry isn't enough

• Dating from fantasy versus dating from data

• The danger of making relationships your identity

• Emotional highs versus healthy love

• Commitment, intimacy, and God's design for relationships

• How to protect your heart without hardening it

• What it means to love wisely This one might step on a few toes, but sometimes healing starts there.

Dry Seasons

Mon, 01 Jun 2026 17:03:00 GMT

Sometimes following God feels passionate, intimate, and full of clarity. Other times it feels dry, quiet, uncomfortable, and honestly… hard.

In this episode, Tierra and Stephanie have a raw conversation about wilderness seasons, spiritual dryness, emotional numbness, and what happens when God begins refining the parts of us we’d rather avoid.

They discuss divorce, disappointment, pruning, spiritual apathy, idols, discomfort, and why some seasons with God feel barren on purpose. This conversation is for the person who still loves God but doesn’t “feel” Him the same right now.

The person wondering if they did something wrong. The person trying to survive a season that feels uncertain, lonely, or spiritually exhausting. The wilderness is not punishment. It’s preparation. And if you let Him, God will use this season to transform you instead of destroy you.

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Jealous Friends

Mon, 25 May 2026 17:04:02 GMT

Let’s be honest. One of the hardest things to admit is that someone you love may secretly be jealous of you… or that you’ve wrestled with jealousy yourself.In this episode, we’re unraveling friendship, comparison, insecurity, discernment, and the subtle ways jealousy can show up in relationships.

From backhanded compliments to weird energy when you’re winning, we unpack the signs we often ignore and why unmanaged insecurity can quietly damage even long-term friendships.We also talk about the difference between admiration and envy, how comparison steals your peace, and why healing your own heart matters more than competing with the next woman.

This conversation gets personal, funny, emotional, and deeply rooted in faith as we discuss self-awareness, prayer, discernment, and the importance of keeping your heart pure in every season.

If you’ve ever felt tension in a friendship, struggled with comparison, or realized someone’s discomfort with you had nothing to do with you at all… this episode is for you.

Stay connected + Work with us:

Tierra SadeCertified Disruption Coach | Speaker | CreatorHelping high-functioning believers break toxic cycles, reset their confidence, and live boldly in purpose.Follow: @thetierrasade on IG & @tierrasade on TikTokShop: Disruption Decks: disruptionshop.myshopify.com/

Stephanie AlexisLicensed Mental Health Therapist | Founder of Arabella CounselingServing residents across Texas with compassionate, client centered servicesFollow: @officialstephaniealexis on IG & TikTokBook a Session or Learn More: www.arabellacouns.com

The Truth About Health in Your 30s

Mon, 18 May 2026 17:03:00 GMT

In this episode, Steph and Tee unravel the real journey of health and wellness in your 30s. The changing body. The frustration. The comparison. The discipline. The grief of realizing your old habits are finally catching up to you. We talk about learning to work with your body instead of punishing it, why crash diets and quick fixes don’t last, and how emotional wounds, stress, anxiety, depression, and trauma often show up physically. This conversation is not about being skinny. It’s about being healthy enough to sustain the life and purpose God has called you to.

We discuss:

• Why your body changes in your 30s

• The emotional side of weight gain and body image

• Cortisol, stress, inflammation, and nervous system regulation • Why discipline matters more than drastic measures

• The spiritual parallels between fitness and resilience

How movement impacts anxiety and depression

• The importance of honoring your body instead of shaming it

• Why healing your mind and soul affects your physical health If you’ve been struggling to take care of yourself, feeling disconnected from your body, or overwhelmed trying to “fix” yourself, this episode is for you.

Your body is not the enemy. But it may be asking you to pay attention.

Dangerously Distracted

Mon, 11 May 2026 17:09:52 GMT

In this episode, we unravel the subtle distractions that slowly steal our lives. Not just phones, social media, or toxic relationships, but the endless loops that keep us disconnected from purpose, peace, identity, and the present moment.

This conversation gets honest about temptation, self-control, vanity, executive functioning, emotional loops, and the importance of creating boundaries and “opposition” in our lives to protect our focus. We also discuss rest, identity in Christ, and how many of us are sacrificing precious time for things that were never worth it in the first place.

If you’ve been feeling mentally exhausted, emotionally scattered, spiritually disconnected, or stuck in cycles that keep pulling your attention away from what truly matters, this episode is for you.

Adult Bullies

Tue, 05 May 2026 14:27:20 GMT

Season 2 is here! And we're popping it off with a much-needed conversation about something many of us experience but may not have language for.

Not obvious, childish behavior…but subtle, strategic, and often happening in workplaces, friendships, and leadership spaces. In this episode, we’re getting into:

* why people feel threatened by you before they even know you

* how admiration can quietly turn into insecurity… and then turn into attack

* why your body can feel anxious before you even walk into certain environments

* how silence and avoidance actually reinforce toxic behavior

* the difference between normal conflict and someone intentionally targeting you

* the spirit that is often present in bullying dynamics

* and what it really looks like to confront, set boundaries, and move with discernment If you've ever felt targeted and didn't understand why or need strategy...come unravel this with us!

Marriage is Not the Goal Featuring Christina Price

Mon, 16 Mar 2026 17:00:00 GMT

Is marriage the goal...or have we misunderstood the assignment? In this episode of The Unraveled Pod, we're joined by our girl Christina Price to unravel some of the beliefs many Christian women have inherited about singleness, marriage, purity, shame, purpose, and the pressure to "get it right."

We uncover many thoughts that women quietly wrestle with: "Am I still single because something is wrong with me?" "If I obey God and live right...shouldn't marriage follow?" "How do I live a meaningful life if marriage never happens for me?" "Maybe I should just go ahead and marry because I'm tired of waiting." "How do I surrender my expectations about the kind of man I want?" "It's just not fair that I'm not married by now." As we unravel these questions, we get honest about church culture, identity, disappointment, waiting, and what it really looks like to trust God with your life and your timeline. If your story looks different than what you imagined, this conversation is for you!

Making Peace with Your Mortality

Mon, 09 Mar 2026 17:01:02 GMT

Death is the one universal experience we all share, yet it’s the conversation we avoid the most. In this episode of Unraveled Pod, Stephanie and Tierra confront mortality head-on.

Why do we fear death? Why does our culture pretend it doesn’t exist? And how should our faith shape the way we prepare for eternity? From the top five regrets of the dying to powerful testimonies of grief and supernatural comfort, this episode challenges you to consider your life through an eternal lens.

Stay connected + Work with us: Tierra Sade Certified Disruption Coach | Speaker | Creator Helping high-functioning believers break toxic cycles, reset their confidence, and live boldly in purpose. Follow: @thetierrasade on IG & @tierrasade on TikTok Shop: Disruption Decks: disruptionshop.myshopify.com/

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Introduction to the topic of death and mortality

01:21 Why do we avoid talking about death?

02:41 The universal nature of death and cultural differences

04:45 The importance of preparing for death and eternity

09:37 Lessons from 'The Top Five Regrets of the Dying'

11:58 Living a life true to yourself and your faith 14:26 Christian perspectives on death and grief

16:22 The danger of spiritual practices like witchcraft in grief

17:48 God’s sovereignty in death and loss

20:08 Living with eternity in mind and the importance of spiritual preparation

22:32 Inviting God into our grief and the vision of loved ones in heaven

26:34 Living a life that honors God and prepares for eternity

29:26 The significance of relationship with God for eternal life

30:35 What we do here impacts our eternity

31:27 Final thoughts: Embracing the reality of death and living intentionally

32:51 Looking forward to eternal life and questions for God

The Cost of Being the Strong Friend

Mon, 02 Mar 2026 18:03:02 GMT

To the friend who doesn't vent, is always "good," listens to everyone else, and doesn't get checked on enough. It's time to unravel what it really means and costs to be the "strong friend."

We talk about: Why you might feel alone even in a solid friend group How you condition people not to check on you The pride and perfectionism hiding behind “I’m fine” Isolation as a quiet defense mechanism Vulnerability challenges that don’t feel dramatic or performative And how gratitude and maturity can exist at the same time as struggle You’re not “low drama,” you might just be low disclosure. Your strength is beautiful, but suffering in silence is not. Let's begin unraveling and giving you a soft place to land. Episode

Breakdown:

00:00 The Strong Friend Defined

02:57 The Cost of Being the Strong Friend

05:48 Struggles of the Strong Friend

08:38 The Importance of Vulnerability

11:38 Building Trust in Friendships

14:36 The Role of Support Systems

17:36 Navigating Vulnerability Challenges

20:27 The Journey to Openness

23:27 Gratitude and Perspective

26:35 The Power of Community

29:30 Breaking the Cycle of Isolation

32:11 Reciprocity in Friendships

Kingdom Friendships

Mon, 23 Feb 2026 01:12:14 GMT

What’s the difference between having Christian friends… and having Kingdom friendships? In this episode, we unravel the real distinction between surface-level church connections and covenant relationships that shape your identity, sharpen your character, and push you toward God’s purpose for your life.

We talk about:

• Why “Christian” doesn’t automatically mean safe

• How to properly vet friendships (yes, even in church)

• Why some friendships are seasonal

• How to stop idolizing connections that are no longer aligned

• The power of self-reflection after getting burned

• Why discernment requires examining your own motives

• How to submit your friendship patterns to God

• And what it actually looks like to have life-giving, Kingdom-centered community

We get honest about loneliness in your 30s and 40s, the temptation to latch onto the wrong people, and how becoming the friend you want to attract changes everything.

This conversation is equal parts practical, spiritual, and deeply personal. If you’ve ever struggled with friendship breakups, misalignment, or wondering where “your people” are...you have to tune in and comment!

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Introduction to Kingdom Friendships

01:27 Christian vs. Kingdom Friendships

02:02 The Heart of Kingdom Friendships

04:17 Kingdom Friendships and the Heart of the King

06:24 Seasonality and Boundaries in Friendships

09:04 Vet and Guard Your Heart in Friendships

11:25 Motive and Intent in Friendships

15:13 Christian Character vs. Title

17:46 Patience and Time in Building Kingdom Friendships

19:49 The Power of Authenticity and Christ-Likeness

22:01 The Season of Isolation and Rebuilding

26:36 The Joy of Genuine Kingdom Connections

28:07 Final Thoughts and Encouragement for Building Kingdom Friendships

Saved, Single, & Swiping: A Bumble Experiment

Mon, 16 Feb 2026 16:51:12 GMT

What happens when three Christian friends run a real, unfiltered Bumble experiment for two weeks?

Stories, red flags, laughter, uncomfortable truths, and one wild success story. In this Post-Valentine’s Day episode of the Unraveled Pod, Tierra, Stephanie, and guest Sharena break down what actually happens on dating apps, from profiles that don’t match values to over-sexualization, bitterness, ghosting, and the surprising ways our own blind spots can show up too.

They talk boundaries, discernment, and why desperation, loneliness, and vulnerability are dangerous places to date from. Stephanie shares how she met her husband on Bumble in just seven days, and what actually mattered, which wasn’t a perfect profile, but intentionality, listening, and character. This episode isn’t just about dating apps. It’s about identity, self-worth, emotional readiness, and learning to date from wholeness rather than need.

If you’ve ever wondered:

• Should Christians use dating apps?

• What boundaries should I have before dating?

• How do I avoid wasting time with the wrong people?

• And what does intentional dating actually look like? This conversation is for you!

Episode Breakdown:

01:25 The Bumble experiment

04:07 How the experiment started

06:38 Intentional dating mindset

08:24 Common red flags

12:59 Self-reflection from the app

15:35 Dating anxiety + potential

19:24 Authentic communication matters

23:04 Boundaries on dating apps

28:43 Standards, value, desperation

30:26 Dating should stay enjoyable

33:42 Stephanie’s Bumble success story

42:21 Green flags to notice

45:23 Faith, identity, and dating

49:21 Timing, vulnerability, and wisdom

A Life of Worship Featuring Sharena Black

Mon, 09 Feb 2026 13:39:29 GMT

In this episode of The Unraveled Pod, Tierra and Stephanie are joined by minister of movement and author Sharena Black for a meaningful conversation about what it truly looks like to live a life of worship.

They explore worship as a daily lifestyle expressed through obedience, integrity, stewardship, identity, and intimacy with God. From movement-as-ministry to church culture, reverence, and spiritual sensitivity, this conversation challenges the notion that worship is limited to church spaces or platforms.

Sharena shares the heart behind her book, "How to Steward Your Mantle of Worship," and how worship flows through everyday life, not just public moments.

This episode is honest, reflective, and deeply grounding. A conversation about surrender, alignment, and living with God at the center of everything you do.

Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Welcome + Guest Introduction

00:53 Defining A Life Of Worship

01:51 Worship As Lifestyle

02:39 We Are The House

03:39 Worship In Daily Practices

05:33 Stewardship Of Worship

06:03 Identity Beyond Titles

07:10 Obedience And Surrender

10:10 Honoring Worship Spaces

12:52 Ministry Over Performance

16:17 Church Culture vs Reverence

25:17 Encounter Over Routine

38:07 Final Reflections

Spinning the Block

Mon, 02 Feb 2026 18:04:00 GMT

In this episode, Steph and Tee unravel what “spinning the block” really means. When exes return, when old relationships resurface, and when familiar doors reopen. From psychology and trauma reenactment to faith, discernment, attachment styles, boundaries, and emotional healing, Tierra and Steph unpack why going back often isn’t growth.

They discuss P.R.O.O.F. over promises, fruit over feelings, healing over nostalgia, and discernment over desire. This episode is about cycles, standards, self-trust, and choosing peace over familiarity. If you've ever considered going back, this is a conversation you can't afford to miss.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Introductions and Setting the Stage

00:58 Defining Spinning the Block

01:30 Have You Ever Spun It 02:52 Closure Without Contact

03:39 The P.R.O.O.F. Framework

05:46 Accountability Is Required

06:30 God’s Best Check

08:47 Time Isn’t Transformation

12:08 Trauma Reenactment Patterns

15:52 Standards Over Sentiment

22:19 If You Gotta Hide It 29:00 Final Wisdom

Faith Is Not An Accessory

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 18:00:00 GMT

Faith is not a trend, not a vibe, and not something you put on for Sunday and take off the rest of the week. In this episode, we talk about what it looks like when faith stops being performative and starts being personal.

We get into religion vs relationship, losing reverence in church culture, wilderness seasons, and what happens when you really encounter God and let the Holy Spirit lead your everyday life. Faith isn’t an accessory. It’s a garment.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Intro and what “faith is not an accessory” means

00:40 Faith as trend vs covenant lifestyle

02:20 Persecution, privilege, and taking faith seriously

03:55 Performative church culture and lost reverence

05:30 Personal encounters with God and real transformation

08:21 Falling in love with God and learning his voice

11:10 God’s love, identity, and being chosen

15:50 Letting God lead your real life, not just Sunday life

19:27 Religion vs relationship and wilderness seasons

22:02 Worship, freedom, and getting undignified

25:46 Being available to the Holy Spirit anywhere

28:52 Greater works, obedience, and living submitted

33:30 Stop envying “culture fun” and live whole

35:09 Bringing God into dating, friendships, and everything 36:23 Closing charge and final takeaway

Sanctified & Outside: Is the Christian Life Boring or Lit? Featuring Sharena Black

Mon, 19 Jan 2026 18:03:00 GMT

Is the Christian life boring. Or is it actually lit in a way the world can’t compete with? In this episode of The Unraveled Pod, Tierra and Stephanie are joined by author and minister of movement Sharena Black for a real, funny, and convicting conversation about what “fun” actually means, why the world’s version of freedom is often just fancy bondage, and how believers can enjoy life without using overindulgence as a coping mechanism.

We get into the YOLO mentality, substance use, hookup culture, and the not-so-glam side of “living it up.” Then we pivot into something deeper. identity, conviction, obedience, and what it looks like to be on God’s “short leash” (aka. the kind of accountability that saves you from yourself). If you’ve ever felt pressure to fit in, felt “square” for choosing holiness, or wondered how to have a joyful life without compromising, this one’s for you.

Connect with our guest, Sharena Black Instagram: @sharena_bless Book: How to Steward Your Mantle of Worship (available on Amazon)

Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Welcome Back + Setting the Vibe

00:49 – Is the Christian Life Boring or Lit?

01:49 – Why Faith Isn’t the Easy Route

03:10 – YOLO Culture vs Eternal Perspective

03:59 – Counterfeit Fun and False Highs

06:00 – When Overindulgence Stops Being Fun

07:25 – What Are We Really Coping With?

10:11 – Testimony: Overcoming Addiction

13:45 – Redefining Fun After Healing

41:57 – Why a Short Leash Is a Blessing

Soft Girl Era: From Survival Mode to Divine Rhythm

Mon, 12 Jan 2026 13:12:11 GMT

"Soft Girl Era" has been trending for years, but what does it really mean beyond bubble baths, luxury aesthetics, and curated calm? In this episode, Tierra and Stephanie peel back the layers of the soft life and redefine it from the inside out. They talk about softness as a spiritual rhythm, not an escape.

A way of living rooted in identity, emotional regulation, faith, and divine design. This episode dives into self-reflection, deconstruction, femininity, rest, boundaries, hormones, money, submission, and what it really looks like to build a life you don’t constantly need to escape from.

If you’ve ever felt exhausted by striving, confused about femininity, or pressured to perform strength at the expense of peace, this conversation will meet you right where you are. Soft life isn’t a trend. It’s a return.

Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Redefining Soft Girl Era

03:30 – Softness, Identity, and Regulation

06:34 – Vulnerability and Survival Mode

07:15 – The Pandemic Reset

11:17 – Self-Reflection and Clarity

13:14 – Soft Life in Real Life

15:38 – Hyper-Independence and Hormones

17:58 – Humility and Feminine Power

21:10 – Letting Go of Control

25:31 – A Life You Don’t Escape From

From Hidden to Highlighted

Mon, 05 Jan 2026 18:04:02 GMT

In this episode of the Unravel Pod, Stephanie and Tierra engage in a heartfelt conversation with guest Tobias Devon about the journey from being hidden to gaining influence. They explore themes of authenticity, the challenges of navigating social media, the importance of humility, and the power of childhood dreams. Tobias shares his personal experiences and insights on maintaining one's identity amidst criticism and the significance of a strong relationship with God. The discussion emphasizes the idea that elevation often comes after moments of humiliation and that one's story can be a powerful testimony of redemption and growth.

00:00 Introduction and Setting the Tone

07:54 Authenticity and the Power of Identity

09:51 Navigating Criticism and Staying True to Self

13:29 The Challenges of Being in the Spotlight

17:23 Dealing with Past Shame and Humiliation

21:53 The Role of Repentance and Redemption

24:39 Maintaining Humility During Elevation

29:43 The Importance of Intimacy with God

40:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

41:00 Introduction to the Conversation

41:00 Exploring Key Themes

Never Too Much

Mon, 29 Dec 2025 18:00:00 GMT

If you’ve ever been told you’re “doing too much,” or “being too much.” This episode is for you. In this episode of The Unraveled Pod, we get real about where the “too much” label comes from, how childhood experiences quietly shape our self-perception, and why so many of us grew up becoming expert people-pleasers with terrible boundaries.

We share our own stories of being misunderstood, over-edited, and slowly learning how to like ourselves without apology. You are not too emotional, too intense, or too deep. You were never too much. You were just in rooms that couldn’t hold you.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to 'Too Much' and Self-Acceptance

02:59 Personal Experiences with Being 'Too Much'

05:42 The Impact of Childhood on Self-Perception

08:58 Navigating Relationships and Authenticity

11:51 The Struggle with People-Pleasing

14:47 Understanding Boundaries and Kindness

17:50 The Role of Critics and Self-Validation

20:38 Embracing Your True Self

23:30 The Importance of Community and Support

26:27 Final Thoughts on Authenticity and Self-Love

The Cost of Clapping Back

Mon, 22 Dec 2025 18:03:00 GMT

Ever found yourself crafting the perfect clapback… then wondering if it was worth it? In this episode, we’re getting all the way into it. Tierra and Stephanie unpack what it really costs spiritually, emotionally, and mentally when we react out of ego instead of wisdom. From the temptation to defend ourselves to the power of silence, we explore what it means to confront with emotional intelligence, maturity, and spiritual discernment.

We’re talking: • The difference between being passive and being still

• How prayer can shift your posture before a conflict even begins

• Why sometimes the strongest response is no response

• Jesus as the blueprint for composure under pressure

• Choosing healing over the high of the comeback

Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Welcome to The Unraveled Pod 00:56 – The Cost of Clapping Back 05:59 – Maturity in Responses 09:59 – Spiritual Growth and Clapping Back 18:03 – God's Perspective on Conflict 20:23 – The Challenge of Winning in Humility 21:15 – Dying to Self: The Path to True Victory 22:37 – Confrontation and Identity: A Personal Journey 24:41 – Surrendering to God's Will in Conflict 26:30 – The Strength of Composure: Jesus as Our Model 27:46 – Emotional Regulation: The Key to Healthy Responses 28:05 – The Psychological Impact of Passivity 29:20 – Living in Fight or Flight: The Cost of Defensiveness 30:41 – The Need for Rest: Breaking the Cycle of Survival 31:47 – Navigating Confrontation: When to Speak Up 33:34 – The Importance of Assertive Communication 35:33 – Practicing Emotional Regulation in Conflict 37:55 – Seeking Compassion: A Shift in Perspective 39:15 – Establishing Boundaries: Knowing When to Walk Away 40:43 – Strategizing Confrontation: Seeking Divine Guidance